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  1. Forgiveness is tough! I think it would be so much harder, though, without prayer – without asking God for help with the forgiveness and continually staying rooted in His strength to move forward.

  2. When someone has hurt me, or judged me incorrectly and is not sorry, I find it very hard to forgive. I want them to feel badly over my hurt! Yet God’s grace and mercy is available to us all. Your words that ‘forgiveness (is) the duty of a child of God’ resonates with me deeply. Thank you!

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      I feel that way too, Lynn. It’s hard when the other person doesn’t feel remorse for what they’ve done.

  3. “Prayer changes my perspective from self-preservation to God’s transformation.” So true! We just can’t see how God is working it all out, but He is. Our job is to trust.

    Thanks for sharing!

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      That’s a great point, Jerralea – God’s working it out in the background. We just need to keep our eyes on him and trust him.

  4. Prayer changes my perspective from self-preservation to God’s transformation. That will preach or teach. It’s hard to see that perspective when we are living in our pain. This is one reason so many do not do as the bible says, go to the one who had hurt you, forgive them, which does not mean you have to continue to have the same relationship with them or any at all. But for our sake, for freedom in our walk, for peace to flood us again we must at all cost change our perspective to God’s. Great post.

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      Thanks for your thoughts, Betty. And Jesus is a great model of forgiveness for us to follow.

  5. Forgiveness is definitely something I struggle with. Thank you for this insightful post about an important topic. Thanks for being a part of the #RaRaLinkup too.

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      Katie, thank you for being so honest. You struggle with the best of them – remember Peter’s question to Jesus?

  6. I love this post Rachel. It is so real and speaks such truth of our hearts and that of our restoring King. I loved your tweet and the line before, “When we turn to prayer it becomes less about us and more about God. Prayer shows the orientation of our hearts to be turned upwards to God instead of inward on ourselves.” Great post. As always, I am so glad I stopped by here today. Your picture wasn’t on your link so I got a pleasant surprise when I stopped by today! Thank you for sharing with us at Sitting Among Friends on Wednesdays. I look forward to seeing you again this week.

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      Jamie, thank you for visiting and your words have encouraged me to remember even though I write about it, it is more important to do it. And there is nothing more important than spending time with God. Thank you for hosting Sitting Among Friends, and becoming a friend. 🙂

  7. Great post, Rachel! When I pray, I picture Jesus in the green pasture of the 23rd Psalm. In my prayer, I take the hand of person who has wronged me and I walk them out to the pasture where Jesus is…I place their hand in Jesus’ nail-scarred hand, and I walk away, thanking Jesus for He is working in my life and in the life of the one I am forgiving, and for how much He loves us both. Many blessings to you!

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      Beth, I love that picture of Jesus in the green pastures of Psalm 23. When we use the imagery of the scriptures in prayer, it brings us so much more deeply into our time with God, don’t you think?

  8. there was a time in my marriage when i was told by people ‘outside’ of my life in the flames, that they would never – could never – forgive the things that had been done to me. and for a short time, i thought i would never either. but then, in the midst of prayer, i saw the truth.
    there were things in my life that someone might have said the same thing to Jesus about me. that they would never – could never – forgive the things that i had done.
    and yet He did. He would and He could and He did. i was forgiven for much less than what had been done to me, and at the same time, Jesus also forgave the one who had wounded me.
    who was i to be so arrogant to not forgive, when i had been forgiven? who was i to be so self-righteous to not forgive, when he had also been forgiven by One who forgave all? by One who sacrificed and loved more than we could ever imagine?
    the greatest act of love is forgiveness. not necessarily love for the one we are forgiving, but love for ourselves

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      Cindi, what beautiful and tender words you have written. And what a beautiful witness you are in modeling what Christ has done for us. Your heart has blown me away. I think of all the women in the Gospels who followed Jesus, and stood near the cross and were with him to the end, because they knew what he had done for them in their lives. You remind me of them. They were wonderful witnesses, too.

  9. Prayer and forgiveness makes it less about us and more about God–those are words I needed to hear today. Thank you. It’s so easy to focus on myself and forget that I’m supposed to be forgiving someone else.

  10. I’ve forgiven my boyfriend on cheating while we were dating and after time and prayer we got married. Today we are three years married and are happier than we could ever imagine. Forgiveness is easy but giving back trust to that person who hurt you is even harder. I love your article and I believe forgiveness is the first step to the beginning of renewal in relationships.

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      You make some very good points and restoring a relationship is often small slow steps of which forgiveness is the first.

  11. Forgiveness is hard, however it only destroys one’s peaceful feeling and grows if it is not dealt with. I usually am one to confront the offense no, it is not always successful, however, the Bible does say to make things right with someone when you kneel at the alter to pray.

    Also, I have found that if you do not forgive, you are giving the other person control over you, instead of taking it to God, and leave it there. Time is a healer also, and we get in a hurry to feel good again. Human, no one wants to feel the sadness of a broken trust or relationship or unforgiveness.

    Thanks for sharing, love the words.

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      You are so right, bitterness and being unforgiving does destroy our peace. Thankful that we can bring it to God who helps us where we find it so hard.

  12. Prayer is an on-going conversation that ebbs and flows throughout our day. It’s conversing with the One who loved and forgave us first. But that ebb and flow can be disrupted when unforgiveness sets in and bitterness, anger, and even hate take root. It can disrupt our joy for days, even years. I’m actually writing my personal story of moving from unforgiveness to forgiveness in the form of a book/bible study now. Real forgiveness leads to real freedom – freedom in Christ Jesus – and there’s nothing like it in the world. Thank you for the challenge, Rachel. It’s definitely worth the effort.

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